We had an interesting presentation and discussion this evening at a meeting of a service group I belong to. It was primarily about caring for someone with dementia but one question that came up can, I think, apply to anyone. We were presented with a list of five "Love Languages" and asked to think about which two are most important to us. It was pointed out that just because something is high on our love language list, it might not be for someone else. Here's the list:
1. Words of affection 2. Quality Time 3. Gifts (receiving) 4. Acts of Service 5. Physical Touch
When I looked at the list, I realized that #5 physical touch is very important to me. I love to be hugged. But not everyone does. A young person I know never wants to be hugged, but she does like gifts. My second pick is #2 quality time (and yes I do include game playing, even when I loose, in that category).
So now I'm wondering. What about the people I love. Can I assume that they love what I love or should I try to discover their love language favorites? Or do you love people because they love what you love? This could get complicated.
So here's my challenge to you and myself. Choose your own two favorite love languages, then try to guess what someone you love would choose. After you have your guesses in mind, ask them what their choices might be. You may be surprised.
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